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Shut (2009)
IMDB rating: 2.50
Plot: Malcolm Bricks (Lee Collin Baxter) wakes up in a nightmare of blood and betrayal. The bunker he is trapped in was the scene of a brutal crime shortly before. The results are three dead bodies and a mysterious bag. Malcolm has barely any memories about his part in this game. Is he a killer, as his partner Trent Richards (Paul Glaser) tells him while he slowly bleeds to death?
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Available versions:
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Directors: Ohlsen Moritz
Actors: Baxter Lee,Strachan Ray,Glaser Paul,Caster Jeff,Masterson David,van Jones Byron,Saklofsky Ryan,Gerdell Nikolas,Arensmeier-Riva Stephan,Chateau Michael,Thriller,
Having trouble expressing my emotions to my wife.. What to do?
I can express myself well in the sense that I am upfront about my feelings and I am open about them. However whenever I get sad my wife also gets sad and instead of being able to tell her how I feel, I always have to push my emotions to the side and take care of her. Even when I have done nothing wrong to her, she still gets sad and every time I try to tell her the problem, she takes it like she is doing something wrong and she shuts off all her emotions and becomes very quiet. I don’t know what to do, I am so frustrated from this because none of our problems ever get solved, they just get brushed away because I can’t talk to her about the problems I am having and try to get them worked out because she always get sad.
Every time she is sad and its my fault, even if I am sad I am there for her. I don’t know why she can’t do the same for me.
I guess I should add its problems between me and my wife. Its not any outside problems. I express my feelings to her as nicely as possible and all I want is her to listen to my side so we can work it all out.
based on what you said, i think she is too dependent on you and tried to blame you for her sadness. she never tried to see your side of the story because you never let her. did you ever try to tell about how you feel? maybe she would want to listen to you as well? maybe she never tried to understand you because you never showed your emotions and she always thought you were the strong one.
what kind of problems do you have? does it have to do with her? sometimes, girls get upset and all we want is the guy to be there for us. but i agree that we are all humans and guys have their weak side too.
communication is always very important and i always believe in talking things out. i myself am also trying to be as open and honest as i can be to my other half, whom i love so much. sometimes, i am sad but i dont want to burden him with my unhappiness, because i am afraid that he will misunderstand me and love me less, but in the end, as i avoid telling him, he can tell that i am unhappy (cos i sulk) and i have to talk about it anyway.. so i have decided to just be truthful.
all the best.
justwannahelp | Nov 25, 2009
Just open up and tell her it’s for the best if yous don’t talk about it then it’s aways gonna be like this for you u need to sit down and talk to her
Cutiepies. | Nov 25, 2009
sweet redmild is in the house…crawl into her playpen
Rufus | Nov 25, 2009
So you want to blame her, because her sadness makes you feel bad, because you don’t know how to express your feelings without making her feel like she’s being attacked and your problem is her fault.
You’re lucky she gets quiet. I wouldn’t be that nice to you.
Betty M | Nov 25, 2009
you need couples counseling soon.
not dead at 48 | Nov 25, 2009
If her first reaction is to blame herself for your sadness, then it would seem that she has low self esteem and/or is a defeatist in that she assumes that at some point the relationship will fail.
Try this. The next time you feel the need to express your feelings and you know she’s likely to internalize that sadness, qualify what you’re about to say before you say it. Tell her that you want to discuss something important with her, but that it’s imperative that she not blame herself. You just want to share with her how you’re feeling, and you don’t expect her to fix the problem, you just want to share your burden with her as your best friend.
Tell her that if she begins to blame herself or twist your words to make herself sound inferior, you’ll not likely share your heart with her very often. Then ask her if she is willing to listen under those terms. If she says yes proceed—but choose your words very carefully. If she starts to react in a way that makes you think she’s blaming herself, say, "No! We’re not going there, remember? Don’t do that to yourself or to us. Just hear me out. This isn’t about any weakness that you think you have."
Good luck!
DJ | Nov 25, 2009
your wife is someone who probably is a good person, she just does not know how to not get sad when you are. You should continue to tell her your problems, if you want. You sound like you are expressing your feelings well, its her with the issues. You cant help how she responds to you, but just say how you feel and you may have to try to figure out everything on your own. She sounds to "weak" to help you solve the issues.
OMGVHG | Nov 25, 2009
Emotions are human nature and you should know your luckier then you think. She is probably just sensitive. Do you have any family or friends you can talk to about your problems. Dumping them on your wife might not be the best thing for you if she is super sensitive as it sounds.
I know that todays shrinks want you to believe that talking about your problems is the best way to deal with them, but that’s not always the case. You might find that talking about them doesn’t help anything. In your case you should only talk about your problems with your wife when you have some constructive purpose. For example: honey I need to change my job or I don’t want anymore kids, instead of, honey I hate my job and our kids. See the difference. Remember to count all of your blessings and the issues that you think you have might not seem that bad.
Good luck
husbandman | Nov 25, 2009
Just think you guys need to lighten up a lil. Why are you so sad. Come on life is good enjoy everyday because soon life will end.
Who Y | Nov 25, 2009
Yeah, we women are like that. We think everything is our fault. We’re hard to live with aren’t we?
Have you pointed out how your wife tends to react when you talk with her? Have you actually said, "Sometimes I want emotional support from you?" If she’s aware that you want to put her in the position of problem solver/emotional supporter because YOU need HER help, she might be more willing to be that for you.
Libby | Nov 25, 2009
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